Tumbled Words

So you want balance in your life?

Then make it. Go ahead, change something, now, this very second.

Reading too much? Stop reading this.

(Thank goodness that wasn’t your unbalanced area - or you were too curious to stop reading.)

Balance is a variable and always will be, and to find it, we need to set up our definitions - and our own comfort level on that scale.

1. Now we can cheat and weight one side of the scale with low self-esteem or the other side with lack of caring. Why not skew it with caring too much or not enough? Then there is obsession we must not admit to — so we have to cheat those scale readings a bit more. If we were the dishonest types, we would have already done that and declared our lives balanced. Did you?

I thought not.

2. We have to recognize that balance is Math! Not New Math nor calculus, but plain old fashioned addition and subtraction: the math we can do if we are not falling asleep at our desks after blogging or playing all night. Only one rule to remember: It is not just 50/50. It can be 70/30 or 20/80. In fact, it can be 129 and a negative 29. Oops, that’s it, that is the problem isn’t it?

We feel tipped to the 129 and negative 29 side of this. And the reason it isn’t considered balance is why? Oh yeah, because that 129 is something we are choosing to feel guilty about. We say it is expectations that we were taught or adopted unconsciously or chose because we chose to believe what they said. And we would not be lying. But where we are lying to ourselves, perhaps, is in thinking we really believe it, when all the evidence in our heart and our physical body shouts at us almost daily, “KNOCK IT OFF! Other things need to go in this mix. How come they get all your time, attention, money, nightmares, and dreams today?”

Well, guess what? It may they needed all your attention today, but it is your choice to give it to another thing another time or continue giving it all to one. You are already balanced, look at it as simply rearranging the weights one moment at a time. Make new choices - just for today, you can make different ones tomorrow and you will still live a balanced life.

NOTE:

This was a somewhat flippant, but sincere response to Shelly’s quest for understanding balance in her life. I think I kind of flitted right past her underlying question, though.

If you understood this, congratulations… ’cause sometimes I feel so strongly about something, the emotions block my intended words - and well, I go off on tangents. Now, go write about your balance, but first you may just want to read Shelly’s post so you write about the true subject! Do so by May 9th!

If you didn’t understand a word of this, I am so sorry you took the time to read it. Don’t read my next one, that should balance it out. So, now go write one that makes sense so we can all learn from it — PLEASE. Do so by May 9th.

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